Decisions are as powerful AF, Here’s why:
When I’m not coming to you through your ears on this podcast, I am a life coach. I help women get unstuck and create the extraordinary life they want to live on purpose.
I work with women just like you who want to change their life and feel better. That’s why you're listening to this podcast right? You want to have more abundance in your life, more money, more fun more satisfaction. But it’s not just about the money is it?
It’s how you feel about yourself and your life. It’s about who you want to become. That’s the result you get from coaching. You become the woman you want to be!
You want to feel Less doubt, less insecurity or lack of confidence. Basically, you want change but don’t know how to go about making it happen. That’s where I come in.
If you are a high achieving woman and want more, I am your coach, I will help you become the woman you want to be.
There are lots of coaches out there who are very niches specific for example they are a business coach or a weight loss coach and they just focus on that area of your life, or a money coach which is a beautiful thing.
But there are lots of women out there like myself who don’t necessarily fit into one of those niches but you still want to stop feeling like you are having the same problems. It’s like yes you want to create more money and have an abundant money mindset but actually want you really want is to feel more confident to create what you want. I help women with all of this. I hear you, I see you, I was you. You just want to feel better and have a better life. I’ve got you.
So today I want to help you with this and teach you some ideas I help my clients with.
Decisions
Decisions are what create your life. Now these last few episodes have been about time and how you manage it and you may have picked up that being a time management goddess is about making decisions ahead of time. Deciding how you will spend your time.
A decision is essentially having an idea or a thought and then committing to that idea via your actions or non-action.
Before we go any further, I want to take a moment and ask you what decisions did you make in the past to have the life you have now. For example, I live in NSW because I made a decision to support my partner and his career opportunities. I have two children because I made a decision to have kids.
The decision we make or don’t make shape our life. But don’t fool yourself into thinking you don’t make decisions or don’t have a choice.
Let me elaborate on that.
There are 3 main ideas when it comes to making decisions
The first is that
1 Everything is optional.
Now you might disagree with me here. But I encourage you to listen with an open mind. Maybe you earn a certain income and think you don’t have a choice about that because that’s what your industry pays. But you are choosing to work in that industry. You might feel like you don’t have a choice when it comes to your partner, your kids or your life, you absolutely do. You don’t have to be with the partner you are with or work in the job that you do or answer the phone call from your mother in law. As an adult you absolutely get to decide. Everything is optional.
Knowing this gives you so much agency and also can be a huge relief. I think I gave the example once of changing my daughter’s nappy. I didn’t enjoy doing but I chose to do it because I wanted a baby with a clean bum. I could have absolutely not changed her. I could have told my partner that was his job. Or let her go with no nappy or sent her to day care during the day so I didn’t have to do it. We tell ourselves that we don’t have a choice but it’s a lie. We absolutely do have choice. And when you think about it this way it gives you so much perspective because I think of course I want to change her nappy. I am choosing to do that. I want to do that.
The next idea when it comes to decisions is that
2 There are no wrong decisions.
Seriously. Yes, in hindsight we might decide going out and getting wasted at the office Christmas party was not the result you were going for but, in the moment, when faced with a decision you want to make there is no correct decision. Our brain likes to convince us that there is a right decision because that’s your brain’s job it is trying to keep you alive a safe. But whether you invest in your business or invest in shares which one is right? The decision you make is the right one.
Truly ruley, I would love for you to try this idea on because it will free you!
What if you just decided that there are no wrong decisions and whatever decision you make is the right decision. You can pick any option and either one will be the right decision. This is an amazing space to create your life from.
The final idea is that
3. The more decisions you make consciously the better
My take on this is that I think most of us have made decisions in the past and we are still living from those decisions and experiencing the results of those decisions without consciously deciding if it is still what we want.
For example the partner you have right now. Would you still choose them today? Hands down I can confidently say I would choose him every day of the week! This is a powerful place to live your life from because it cuts right through all the BS.
For sure I have days when I’m annoyed with him but I decided he is the one for me and I decide it every day.
But on the other hand, I was working as a teacher and I loved being a teacher. It was perfect for me at the time. Would I decide to be a primary school teacher again today? My answer is no. Now what some of us do is that we live our old decisions without examining or questioning if that is what we want today.
I could still be working as a teacher today and it wouldn’t be so bad but I would be living against myself. Doing something on repeat because at some time in the past, over 10 years ago I made a decision.
You don’t have to keep living your old decisions. You can decide on purpose that you are choosing again. You can re-decide or make another decision. You don’t have to hang on to the craft project you have in your cupboard from 5 years ago. Would you choose to do it again today? If the answer is no, get rid of it.
Think about this for a moment. If you are not choosing to be wealthy, you are choosing not to be wealthy! Mind blown.
I was contemplating this the other and was really blown away by it. Because think about it. If you are not consciously choosing something in your life that you want and saying yes to it. You are saying no.
Now you don’t have to choose to be wealthy but if you are listening to this podcast I’m going to take a stab in the dark and assume you want to improve your financial situation. Well my friend if you are not choosing wealth on purpose, you are saying no to it!
How crazy is that?
Like take a second to really let that land. I don’t care what you do. You know what is best for you, not me but if you are not going out and deciding to create multiply streams of income, you are choosing to not have it. Do you see what I’m saying.
Furthermore, what decisions are you leaving on the table? We talk about this a little in the interview I did recently with Lauren Cash. Not making decisions is the biggest time waster ever! I mean ever.
And there is a compound effect. I want you to use your imagination for a second and visualise a little stick figure. The stick figure is standing there and it has a decision to make. Option A or Option B. Stick figure doesn’t know which one is the right decision so they wait, they think about it some more, they way up all their options. Meanwhile stick figure is starting to go grey. And they are still in the same place.
At the end of the day option A and Option B are both the right decision. It doesn’t matter which one stick figure picks. When stick figure picks one they move forward with their life.
Now I’m not suggesting if you pick option B you won’t decide later to change to option A. That’s fine. But the truth is we can just decide we made the right decision. We can just decide that whatever we choose is right for us. We waste so much time in indecision.
18 months ago, I decided to create a podcast. I had no idea what would come of it or where I would end up. I just decide to do it. I committed to it and did it. Next week is episode 52. That is one year of episodes! Imagine if I was still thinking about doing the podcast. Thinking about what the best intro and outro should be, wondering whether I should call it Money Mindful or something else. This is what we do. And it’s crazy!
We are letting our lives pass us by. Decision debt is real. Just take a moment and contemplate what you are leaving on the table by not making a decision. I have made some of the most amazing connections this past year and had such rich juicy experiences. Just to think, imagine if I was still contemplating whether to do it or not. What it would have cost me.
You might have notice, if you have been following me from the beginning that I have made changes along the way. I have altered the branding or the things I say or write. Imaging if I was still weighing up decision about the podcast. In hindsight is is so easy to see all the things I would have missed out on.
Seriously, I'm not a robot, I have doubt and insecurities too but I don’t let it hold be back I make a conscious effort to make decisions on purpose and as quickly as I can. Because I know if I decide to use pink in my Instagram colours, I get to see what it looks like, I can always change my mind later. I just decide the decision I am making is the right decision for me right now.
Don’t leave your life on the table. There are no wrong decision. Just make a decision. Then have your own back. Decide ahead of time you are making the ‘right’ decision and just fucking go for it.
Here’s what I want to leave you with. Your happiness doesn’t depend on you making the right decision. Your happiness depends on what you think about your decisions.
Here are some questions for you to answer.
Who do you want to be?
What do you want to do?
Where do you want to go?
Decide decide decide
When you answer these questions you might decide to say yes again to the decisions you have already made and this is such an amazing awareness to have when you know you are truly living the life you want. You are saying yes to it and re-deciding that it is what you want. You may also find that you want to make some changes and make new decisions.
If you want help with this and want to take this work further to become the person you desire to be. The first step is to book a consultation with me.
What are you waiting for decide today you are going to create an amazing life for yourself? Get help and do it! Decisions move you forward. You don’t need to think about it anymore.
Okay that's all I have for you today.
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